embrace positivity

I would say we are Victims Of Something whether its a victim of bullying , sexual abuse or any trauma in our lives . These three examples aren't the only examples, there are a whole lot more, I just wanted to name a few. I'm not an expert on victimization, the ins and outs of it but I was a victim of bullying. I could've felt sorry for myself the majority of my life but I CHOSE NOT TO . I didn't want to play the victim role anymore. I chose to get up and fight another day and many days after that. The situations that victims are put in are not always simple, they are often complexed. I didn't play the victim role and I don't want you to play that role either. No matter how bad the situation might be, there is light around the corner, there is hope around the corner, we just have to be  willing to search for it, that's all!! Be an advocate for Yourself, don't let those people who are/were victimizing You get an upper hand in Your own life. Don't l

Everyone is Special in their own way, there is no argument about that. I'm not talking about having a disability because some people confuse being special with having a disability. By the way I don't like the special ed terms, I never liked them. Anyways, the Special  that I'm talking about is when You and Us h ave something electrifying that we can give to the world. We have Special  a bilities and traits that can help others. In our jobs we help ourselves but not knowing we may help out others along the way. For example, any type of modeling, that is a Special ability that the world can see and modeling can give people or aspiring models the confidence to be themselves on the cat walk or in life that they might not have at the current moment. Another example are professional sports. There are so many professional sports or sports in general. People who are in this field have Special abilities as they play night in and night out. Aspiring people who want to be on th

When I was growing up, I was always playing it safe. When I was in classes I always raised my hand and participated. I'm not saying participating is not good because it is really good but sometimes I would rather be a class clown but not too much ( just a little) if that makes sense. I was and still am a goody goody and that is fine but sometimes that is boring. I want to live outside of my limits and I want to push it to the limit. I just don't want to do ordinary things, I want to do exciting things!! I want to push the limit and do exciting things within the law so don't get it twisted. I'm not going to go to jail if I can help it. I want to get my feet wet, not dry. I want a banana split with all of the toppings, not just a few, I want them ALL . The good and bad experiences are the experiences I want, maybe the good ones outweigh the bad (lol) but these are experiences none the less. Live Dangerously my friends!!

I finally did it!! I'm so excited because this is the first time I'm living by myself. In the past, I had roommates in Washington, DC and in college but currently this is a new chapter in my life and I'm totally ready for it!!! The two reasons I wanted to move out was to become independent. I was independent when I was living with my mother but the independent that I'm talking about is being free to do whatever I want to do. The second reason I wanted to move was because no young lady wants a guy who still lives with their mother. I'm going to be truthfully honest with you guys, that's how it is (lol). I cried when my mother said she is proud of me because she knew how badly I wanted to move out and to see it happening is truly Progression and  Never Giving Up is the message I want to give to you guys.   I want to be the definition of progression and I want You guys to be the definition of progression. I don't want to look in the past unless I'm look

When I was younger I didn't want any help from anybody. I thought I could do everything myself. Well at least, I tried to do everything myself. I wasn't trying to be Too Prideful when I was younger. I think the reason I was/ I am Too Prideful  is because of my disability. I don't hold my disability as an excuse, I'm just saying that it was and it still is hard for me because I think some people in society think that people who have disabilities can't engage in normal activity like people who don't have disabilities. I was thinking that when I was younger and that stuck in my head for the earlier part of my life. I'm twenty five years old and I'm still growing and people need to let me grow. What I mean by that is that some people in my life want to constantly remind me that I'm being Too Prideful . I don't need that because I'm learning and growing . Learning and growing is essential to the function of our lives. These two ingredient shou

Over the course of the weekend I was thinking and I got super excited about this post I'm going to share with you guys. Have you guys ever thought that society thinks that money should marry/date money? I might be off base here but I don't think I am. For example, an accountant who works for this big firm or corporation and the guy who's interested in that accountant works at a family dollar or grocery store as a bagger, the accountant makes more money than the bagger. Do you think that accountant is going to look at the bagger the same way as a person who makes almost the same as the accountant? I don't know but I guess it all depends on the individual as well. I think we need to squash this mentality because Love isn't about money, it's about being truly happy with your partner. Some of you guys might say You don't know anything about Love, you're not even in a relationship but I watch a lot of Lifetime movies though (lol). Another example is if I

I went to a Mark Battles ( if you don't know him, look him up) concert a few summers ago with my cousin and when the performers hopped on stage, we were rocking. Then I slapped one of the performers hands and to be truthfully honest with you guys, that action I did with the performer felt empowering. I felt really good about that interaction even though it was a brief second. I don't have any beef with celebrities or public figures who have lump sums of money but I feel like society deems them the only ones who can influence our generation but I don't think that's true.  I think the only difference between public figures, celebrities and the rest of us is our bank accounts. It's funny but it's the truth. Celebrities and public figures who are in the public eye/not in the public eye have surplus money I would say. What if all of the money that these celebrities and public figures have suddenly disappear. What then? I think We all can be people of influence, g

I don't know who coined the term "Get The Bag" but I would like to talk about this term and what it means to me. Some people refer this when people get a bundle of money. My problem with that is some people "Get The Bag" and just keeps it for themselves. I understand that people have to feed their families and make sure they are straight but what about after all of that? I'm not saying that all people are selfish with their money. There are examples of people who "Get The Bag" and after all of that, they give money to charities or they even start their own non profits. One person is Lebron James. Lebron James started his own foundation, the Lebron James Foundation. He also recently opened up a school in his hometown, Akron, Ohio. He did these endeavors because he wants to secure the future for our youth. Another name you might heard of but his name is Sean Combs. He also opened up a school in New York to preserve the future for our youth. He als

Before I go on with this post, I don't want anybody to have pity on me or feel bad for me. I think this would be a good assumption and the assumption is everybody is emotional. Some people are less emotional than others. I would say I'm very emotional, I will cry in a minute. Maybe this is good and bad in certain situations .A couple of examples of emotional situations are as follows:  if somebody has an disagreement with a boss or a manager, You can't get Your emotions the best of You . Another example is when You are in a relationship and Your significant other is expressing his/her opinion about something and You just laugh at his/her opinion and You just hurt her/his feelings. He/she is emotional now and You have to fix that. Dealing with emotions are difficult but emotions are part of life. I don't think there is a correct way to handle emotions. I just try to put people's emotions before mine. Even though I am a emotional guy and have a lot of feeling

   For a few weeks now, I think I was at a roadblock or had multiple ones in my life. I might still be at a roadblock in life or I might've just felt like that. Even though my businesses ( motivational speaking + T-Shirts) are heading in a positive direction, I felt like it was a big chunk or chunks missing in my life. Oh, by the way my website is:  www.inspireeducateencourage.com  where you can buy shirts and two percent of the proceeds will go to the Joubert Syndrome Foundation. I had to plug that in somewhere, lol. Back to the topic of hand though, I haven't gone to church in a few weeks. It's Not because I lost faith in God, I will always have faith in God because of what He has done for me and is still doing for me, it's truly magnificent.  I can truly admit during this period, I was struggling with the faith aspect. I guess I was struggling because I had all of these emotions that were inside me all at once!!    The other emotion that I felt and is still feeli

A few weeks ago I was heading somewhere in downtown Cleveland but I stopped to catch a bus down there and a man in a wheelchair approached me and I said "hi, how are you doing?" The man replied by saying "I'll be much better when I have some food." Surprisingly enough, I had prepared me some soup and grilled cheese at work and I just placed the food in my book bag. I opened my book bag and gave the food to the man. That made me feel good.  Later that day, it was a lady who was begging for anything and I said " I don't have anything, I'm sorry." I just remembered I had a bottle of Snapple ( juice) in my book bag. I walked back to the lady and handed the Snapple to the lady. I don't want a pat on the back or anything, I'm just doing my civic duty as an American citizen. As the saying goes, Sharing is Caring!!!  I always pray to God and I ask God to just feed the people of America and on international lands who are without food, give the

Today on this Memorial Day I saw Disobedience starring  Rachel McAdams and Rachel Weisz. This is a beautiful masterpiece. For those who haven't seen this film I highly recommend You go see it ASAP!! What I got out of this beautiful masterpiece is that nobody can hold you captive. In other words, nobody can control You in your community or in Your own house. Of course when You are little, your mother or father says take a bath, You take a bath because your parents told you take a bath. But when you get older, you can make Your  own decisions because You have the mindset to do so. In a community setting, I can imagine it can be hard for somebody to go against the grain because it may be religious restrictions or social standards that You have to abide by. I haven't been in a situation of any communal restrictions or any social standards to abide by but I know that people have to express themselves in their natural light. If You have to go against the grain in order to express Y

Power is a vital quality a person or a group of people can have and there is positive and negative power in my opinion. An example of negative power is what Adolf Hitler did to the Jews during the Holocaust. I read an article in Esquire Magazine and the article was about all of the women who were sexually abused and this was during the Me Too Movement. The article also mentioned that men who did these injustices towards these women have power among the victims and the victims are in fear because of the men's social statuses. The women (victims) think nobody will believe them that these men did these injustices because of their high societal ranking.  I think power can deal with a significant amount of fear too and this would also fall into a category of negative power. An example of positive power would be organizations such as Catholic Charities and Boys & Girls Club of America that  help individuals, families and children get the necessities out of life. I saw the Avengers:

 I saw I Feel Pretty starring Amy Schumer and Emily Ratajkowski and it's an amazing film filled with laughter and happy tears. The film made me think of how some people try to fake it to make it. I don't think this is a positive method, actually I think it will hinder the person or people who are trying to apply this method to their daily life. Don't hide the way You are!! Be real with Yourself . I think there are some people out in the world that are trying to be somebody or something they are not. Embrace Your insecurities and differences for what they are and don't dwell on the imperfections and every little thing. For me, it took me along time to embrace my disability (Joubert Syndrome). I might be repeating myself but this is very important. I didn't really embrace my disability fully until the end of my eleventh year in high school. Fast forwarding up to now, I embraced my disability and I'm advocating for the Joubert Syndrome Related Disorders Foundatio

This young lady always comes into Susy's and this past weekend I wrote a letter to her expressing how I felt. I was about to give the letter to her this past Monday but I froze. I couldn't believe I froze!! She was walking pass me to exit the restaurant too. Then Tuesday came and I was waiting for her nervously. Then she came in and then my heart started beating rapidly!! Within five minutes, I told myself just do it Noldon and I handed her the letter. She was about to open the letter and I said "no don't open it now" so she didn't. She was reading the letter as she walked out with her friend. She didn't come in yesterday so fast forward today, she came in and she immediately said hi to me. Then she gave me some news that I wasn't prepared to hear!! She told me she has a kid and she's married. Oh boy, that was some heavy news!! But its all good because I Took My Shot and even though the end result wasn't a bank shot, I tried and I will keep try

I think I am progressing in life, better yet let me rephrase that, I know that I'm progressing. People might be skeptical in my progression but like I said in an earlier post, people work/run at their own pace. A few examples of my progression are getting my own phone and contract. There may be people out in the world that got their own phones and contracts at a younger age and think this isn't a big deal but it is for me. The second example is creating a website with a help from a relative . I want to become a motivational speaker so I wanted to create a website that focuses that alone. The third example is I ordered business cards to promote my website.  The fourth example is not progress that I made, it's about my friend.       Last month, my friend got a job working at a grocery store in Massachusetts. The first time I met him was at my first Joubert Syndrome Conference in Chicago. I'm so Damn proud of him because he stayed persistent and never gave up from getti

I'm a firm believer in  Supporting one another and I truly believe We as American citizens and global citizens of the world we should support one another, encourage one another and uplift one another. Don't discourage, just push people to be their best at all times. Don't rush them by any means but maybe advise closely or by a far. I can admit that in the past I didn't uplift and support people. I did it unintentionally but regardless of the fact, I hurt some people.    People on social media can be cruel sometimes and people on social media can be heavenly other times. What I mean by that is that people will attack you on social media for no reason a lot of time, that's not supporting or uplifting one another and this is an example of people on social media being cruel. Other times, people will support and love You on social media and that's an example of people on social media being heavenly. I'm going to uplift and support people more in life and whi

I would say a lot of movies can deal with Love but I want to talk about a few movies that connects with Love and these movies connect with Love in different ways. The movies are Flower , I Am Sam , Rain Man   and Wonder. Rain Man , I Am Sam and Wonder deal with people who have disabilities and I have a soft spot for disabilities and these three movies have similarity other than Love.   In spite of the people's disabilities, they never gave up from achieving their ultimate goal which was happiness, in my opinion. Isn't that the goal for all of us though, to find happiness? I guess Love comes after happiness because when you find happiness you will find Love within Yourself and Love within others. All of these movies have a connection with Love , they found Love with one another sooner or later but what matters is that it is a  Love connection that the characters had for each other. If you haven't seen any movies I just mentioned, I recommend going to see all of them bu

You know the scene from The Bucket List  when Jack Nicholson was crying around the prostitutes in his mansion. Well, he was crying because he missed his friend. They were total opposites but Morgan Freeman was The Truest One for Jack Nicholson. What I mean by The Truest One is a person that will make you become whole, makes you laugh and cry and builds you up on those not so good days. In my opinion, The Truest One can be a person you are in a romantic relationship with or in a friendship with. I would say when you find that Truest One , stick to them like glue because you would want somebody to tell your deep dark secrets to or just shed a tear on their shoulder. Don't be annoying to them by any means. You might  find happiness, you might find love or you might find bitter anger towards The Truest One but regardless of what you and your Truest One fight about or not fight about, that person will be on your side through thick and then and if they aren't, he or she is not you

One day I was browsing in an convenient store, they sell a lot of magazines and this one particular magazine peaked my interest. The magazine is called Bazaar but what peaked my interest was not the magazine itself, it was the model on the cover. The model is Kendall Jenner, I obviously had to pick that one up, lol. Anyways, this picture is so awesome, I had to take a picture. I really like this picture because this is a women covered in blue paint and in the midst of that covering I saw some chipped off paint and some roughness to it.  I see that roughness and chipped off paint as a metaphor of the woman struggle such as the suffrage movement and the Me Too movement. I just mentioned a couple of historic events. I wonder if the artist is really encompassing women movements and if they are, a job well done!! If not, it's an awesome piece of art work!!! A few weeks ago I visited my cousin in New York and one day we went to the Brooklyn Museum . Many exhibits sparked my interest bu

I wouldn't say I'm a political guy but in this post I'm going to be political for a minute. I feel like this nation is in divide because of all the inequalities that are happening in the world. I think the biggest inequality that the world is facing right now is the Me Too movement. For those who don't know about the movement, let me tell you about it. The Me Too movement is a movement that was sparked by women and men in Hollywood that have been sexually assaulted or harassed. I really love how those women and men that have been misused are Speaking Out and not  Shutting Up about this matter because I think this movement affects us all in one way or another. It's such a malicious act that the men do upon the women and how the men do upon the men. I think it all comes down to respecting everybody's bodies and controlling certain urges. Another issue that is definitely  stirring up nationwide is if President Trump is going to build the wall around the Mexican b

Recently my parents and stepfather been trying to give me advice and suggestions about my future and where my life is going. I Love my parents but I know that God is in control of my future and I continue to Trust, Lean and have Faith in/on Him. I view my current frustration like a race. Some racers are faster than others and that's ok. People have different speeds in life, that doesn't mean they aren't going to achieve their goals and ambitions; it just means that people will achieve them at different points in their lives. I told my parents to just have Faith. One of  my earlier posts, I talked about  having  Faith and putting in the work and I plan doing that until the day I die. I told my stepfather that I know what I have to do, it will take me some time but I will get there. My parents and my stepfather are wise and knowledgeable but on the other side my parents raised me to become self sufficient and to become aware of everything and I'm doing that. Like I said b